My name is Reashell Arlene Loftis a 38yr old mother of 9 children trying to make a change, and if I could change just one young
women or mans life I would be happy. I was born August 25, 1973. My mother only had two girls, my sister and I. My mother was
an accountant and fought her way to the top and after 27 years of work she was able to retire well. She has always been there for me
and always been my best friend. My sister on the other had thought I was the spoiled one we didn't get along very well. It didn't help that our birthdays were on the same day but we were 5 years apart. That's one of the first signs of me being unique. lol
At the age of 16 I had my first child she was still born at 9 months another part of my life that was tragic but helped me to be strong. At the age of 17 I was getting into alot of trouble in school so I ended up moving away going to job corp. In job corp (listen closely girls) I met the second guy that I just knew he was the one I was so in love. yada yada yada and again I became pregnant with my second son. I ended up having him at job corp. 34 weeks pregnant he was born weighing 1pd 8 oz. The doctors told me he would not make it. He stayed in the hospital for 6 months. And today Deshawn is 20 yr old. His father and I no longer together. Then in 1993 I had my daughter Nytosha who is now 18 yrs old and I'm proud of her she has helped me raise he siblings and managed to graduate from High School without having any children. Her father and I no longer together another person I thought I would be with forever. Now we come to 1995 had my daughter Mikayah who is now 16 by someone I thought I was in love with. We stayed together for 8 yrs. (again young ladies pay attention) I stayed with a man who beat on me pulled guns on me, who I was scared of for 8 yrs. He cheated on me brought girls on our home which was my home. And still in 1998 I had his second child his first son Michael Jr. who is now 13yrs old. Still putting up with the beating and cheatings thinking if I stick it out and work it out I can change him in 1999 I had another child by him my daughter Mireonasia who is now 12yrs old. After fighting female after female finding them in my home being locked out of my house while he was inside with another female another female was pregnant with his child and that was when enough was enough I had to let go. So after long drawn out custody battles their dad is now married with a job and other kids we are no longer together. Don't think a baby will change a man and if he hits you once he will hit you again, no matter how many times he tells you i'm sorry I promise to change.
So I had 5 children never married and had given up on men they are all the same. I didn't want a man, but then in 2002 I had my first set of twins by someone else I thought I loved and again we were going to be together forever. Oh but he was married and left his wife. but then he went back to her and in 2003 I had my second set of twins, yes 1 yr and 3 days apart it was like having 4 babies
I had moved away with him to Vegas where I had no family and he left me. I have always been a ride or die for mine so I don't understand why I have never been married. Just like the other fathers he left. The 7 youngest children may hear from their father once a year. The crazy part is they can call to talk to me and tell me the things they miss but don't offer money or even ask to talk to they children.
These people I had children with I thought I loved. You should make sure that's what it is before bringing children in this world know that person because even if he leaves that child will remind you of him for the rest of your life. After giving my all my love my everything to these men I'm just now finding out what real love is "unconditional." When you are really in love with someone it is the most beautiful feeling in the world. I'm sure it feels alot better when that person loves you back the same way.
On my site we will talk about everything and not hold anything back. As you can see I have been thru alot and it has made me a stronger women. With us sharing stories you know your not alone. Your not the first person to take someone back who has cheated, it's not the end of the world your not stupid. Maybe your girlfriend slept with your best friend and you took her back. Maybe your boyfriend is trying to talk you into having a threesome. You could have been molested by a family member. Anything at all we will not hold anything back someone somewhere has been threw or is going threw what you have been thru. Some people don't have enough self esteem to come back from things like that. AllOfUsINC as a family can help make a change. Lets try helping struggling family's pay a bill when in need. Help keep young teen runaways off the street give them other options a second chance.
women or mans life I would be happy. I was born August 25, 1973. My mother only had two girls, my sister and I. My mother was
an accountant and fought her way to the top and after 27 years of work she was able to retire well. She has always been there for me
and always been my best friend. My sister on the other had thought I was the spoiled one we didn't get along very well. It didn't help that our birthdays were on the same day but we were 5 years apart. That's one of the first signs of me being unique. lol
At the age of 16 I had my first child she was still born at 9 months another part of my life that was tragic but helped me to be strong. At the age of 17 I was getting into alot of trouble in school so I ended up moving away going to job corp. In job corp (listen closely girls) I met the second guy that I just knew he was the one I was so in love. yada yada yada and again I became pregnant with my second son. I ended up having him at job corp. 34 weeks pregnant he was born weighing 1pd 8 oz. The doctors told me he would not make it. He stayed in the hospital for 6 months. And today Deshawn is 20 yr old. His father and I no longer together. Then in 1993 I had my daughter Nytosha who is now 18 yrs old and I'm proud of her she has helped me raise he siblings and managed to graduate from High School without having any children. Her father and I no longer together another person I thought I would be with forever. Now we come to 1995 had my daughter Mikayah who is now 16 by someone I thought I was in love with. We stayed together for 8 yrs. (again young ladies pay attention) I stayed with a man who beat on me pulled guns on me, who I was scared of for 8 yrs. He cheated on me brought girls on our home which was my home. And still in 1998 I had his second child his first son Michael Jr. who is now 13yrs old. Still putting up with the beating and cheatings thinking if I stick it out and work it out I can change him in 1999 I had another child by him my daughter Mireonasia who is now 12yrs old. After fighting female after female finding them in my home being locked out of my house while he was inside with another female another female was pregnant with his child and that was when enough was enough I had to let go. So after long drawn out custody battles their dad is now married with a job and other kids we are no longer together. Don't think a baby will change a man and if he hits you once he will hit you again, no matter how many times he tells you i'm sorry I promise to change.
So I had 5 children never married and had given up on men they are all the same. I didn't want a man, but then in 2002 I had my first set of twins by someone else I thought I loved and again we were going to be together forever. Oh but he was married and left his wife. but then he went back to her and in 2003 I had my second set of twins, yes 1 yr and 3 days apart it was like having 4 babies
I had moved away with him to Vegas where I had no family and he left me. I have always been a ride or die for mine so I don't understand why I have never been married. Just like the other fathers he left. The 7 youngest children may hear from their father once a year. The crazy part is they can call to talk to me and tell me the things they miss but don't offer money or even ask to talk to they children.
These people I had children with I thought I loved. You should make sure that's what it is before bringing children in this world know that person because even if he leaves that child will remind you of him for the rest of your life. After giving my all my love my everything to these men I'm just now finding out what real love is "unconditional." When you are really in love with someone it is the most beautiful feeling in the world. I'm sure it feels alot better when that person loves you back the same way.
On my site we will talk about everything and not hold anything back. As you can see I have been thru alot and it has made me a stronger women. With us sharing stories you know your not alone. Your not the first person to take someone back who has cheated, it's not the end of the world your not stupid. Maybe your girlfriend slept with your best friend and you took her back. Maybe your boyfriend is trying to talk you into having a threesome. You could have been molested by a family member. Anything at all we will not hold anything back someone somewhere has been threw or is going threw what you have been thru. Some people don't have enough self esteem to come back from things like that. AllOfUsINC as a family can help make a change. Lets try helping struggling family's pay a bill when in need. Help keep young teen runaways off the street give them other options a second chance.